Open Letter to Michael Guen’s Group
The following letter was written to all affiliates of Michael Guen’s Group in order for new members to realize the real purpose of the group. We of course did know that it would not work on long term members of the group because they are too deeply indoctrinated. Nevertheless, we hoped to reach also ex-members who are not deeply involved anymore to come forward and contribute to this blog:
October 5, 2013
Dear Member and Ex-Member of Michael Guen’s Group,
It took me a while before I realized that I really wanted to write this letter to you. Some members of Michael’s group briefly met me, but I guess most of you just know me from Michael’s emails or from members close to him. I would like to offer you an open communication in order to explain my perspective on the departure of my girlfriend Ruth. She was a member of the group for more than 10 years. By now, she and I have probably been demonized by Michael or other group members. Anyway, in the spirit of openness (which Michael is often encouraging), I would like to ask you to read this message very carefully and please come to your own conclusions about what I am writing here.
I met Ruth in August 2012 on an online dating website. We did fall in love very fast and our first few weeks were lighthearted and fun. I did know from the beginning that she lived with her bagua teacher and two other fellow students. I thought back than that this was a very unusual arrangement for learning martial arts. Over the next few months I found out that she spent $750 per month just for his teaching and the acupuncture sessions. It became clear to me that she must go into debt because she made only $2,200 and she had to spend another $940 for rent (for only one room in Michael Guen’s house). That would leave her only $505 to live on. I did not understand what she was getting for her money. In addition to the paid personal acupuncture sessions, she attended the 3 hour women’s group on Thursdays. After meeting the group together with Michael a few times, it became obvious for me how submissively dependent she was on him. We had many fights around that topic. I could not understand why Ruth was giving her life to Michael Guen. Most of you are very well informed about those fights because she confessed them in group sessions (as encouraged by Michael Guen).
All of that was not understandable to me. As Ruth put it, I could not understand and I was not a believer. Bear with me here – I know that is very hard for you to read, but please hear me out. We reached a certain breaking point in our relationship. She and I were thinking to go our separate ways. I was realizing that the only major stress point we have is her involvement with her group and I was ready to make an extra effort to get a deeper understanding about the nature of Michael and his group. I browsed the internet and I stumbled over other people’s stories which sounded very similar to our own. All of these stories had one common theme and I was stunned when I realized that she was in fact in a destructive cult. Don’t panic here – stay with me and let me explain further. Then you can come to you own conclusions. Remember this is my perspective and you are entitled to have your own. I don’t want to define the term destructive cult here but you can follow this link to a book which explains in easy to read terms what destructive cults are and how they work. In addition, I want you to evaluate your own involvement to see if you are in a destructive cult. The following questionnaire can help you analyze if you are in such an organization: http://www.gospelassemblyfree.com/facts/questionaire.htm
As you may have guessed, I was very disturbed after I came to that conclusion but I was also relieved. Relieved because finally I could understand why she acted the way she acted and why she was spending so much money on this. Now I needed to find a way to transfer this knowledge to her and my hope was that she would be able to come to the same conclusions. I found on the internet a former neurosurgeon named Dr. David McDermott who had been 10 years in a destructive cult. I bought his online book in which he writes about how destructive cults work and operate. I was blown away how many similarities I found to her circumstances. I called David the next day after I was done reading his book. He called me back in a few hours after I left him message. I explained to him in two hours how I see her involvement in the group and David told me that he will call me in a few days because it would take him some time to study the material on Michael Guen’s website and the other information I gave him.
To make a long story short, he came to the conclusion that Michael’s group was a destructive cult. David told me also that in order to get my girlfriend out of this group she has to agree to not see the group for one week. At this point she was already agreeing on her own free will to not see the group for 3 weeks in order to work on our relationship. Like you probably guessed, David and I did an intervention with her. The nature of an intervention is pretty simple. The person who receives the intervention is basically presented with facts about destructive cults in form from of videos, books, etc. This had to be done on my girlfriend’s own terms without any pressure. She had to come to her own conclusions and if the decision would be “No, I am not in a destructive cult,” then I had to accept that and move on. Only after 5 days Ruth realized on her own that she was in fact in a destructive cult. She decided to cease all contact to her group and also to change her phone and email address. It was very hard for her to realize that she wasted 10 years of her life and $55,000, but she is in a much happier space now. She feels relieved and grateful to be no longer under Michael Guen’s influence.
So that’s it in a nutshell. You made it to the end and I am open to answering any questions that you might have as an individual, not from Michael Guen’s perspective. Please ask yourself the question if Michael’s group is a destructive cult. What do you have to lose?
I bet by now you have some other questions yourself like these:
- When is finally the big coming out? First it was in October 2012, then January, April, and July 24th 2013.
- Why are we not online?
- Where is all the content of the website he promised? ·
- Will my document ever being published, the one I which worked so hard and spend all that money to create?
- Is it all fake? Is it all about money?
- Why am I still working for free like his fiancé?
- Will I ever make any money on this?
- Is all that money I am spending on Michael Guen really worth it?
- Is he influencing me in my decisions but claiming I have a free will?
- Is he taking advantage of me?
- Have other members had sex with Michael? Is he really a victim?
- Why I am forced to recruit new women to stay in the group?
- Why am I encouraged to have personal acupuncture sessions with him?
Please study the attached material to get answers to these questions and if you don’t trust me as a source, search the Web and educate yourself. A good place to start is Steve Hassan’s website http://www.freedomofmind.com.
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